When you integrate into a household you want to be part of a solution and not the problem. A very good way to avoid problems on your job is by having regular honest conversation with your employers. Your conservations must be free of judgment and must be done in a non-threatening way. This can be achieved easily if the foundation of the nanny/family relationship is based on mutual respect. You must say what you mean and mean what you say yet be able to compromise. You must be a good listener also and give your employers the benefit of the doubt. As much as I’m aware of the fact that some employers may violate fundamental principles in their relationship with their nannies, we must also be honest about the fact that sometimes nannies also are just as guilty.
I’ve witnessed some professional nannies who seem to be paranoid about the idea that their employers are against them and although I will admit that some relationships are not fruitful, I truly believe that most employers want to have a good working relationship with their nannies and want you to do well. It’s one less thing for them to worry about!! Every employer wants to know that they have chosen the best individual to be with their child/children. They also want someone who’s emotionally and psychologically mature to be able to handle constructive criticisms which are all part of developing great working relationships. No matter how long you have been working as a nanny, you do not know it all-stop, listen, communicate effectively, be humble and then you will begin to open the door to grow in this profession and also grow as an individual.